I am witnessing a similar issue. My wife and I share each others calendars, and adding events to our own calendars works fine. When I add something to my calendar, she sees it on hers (as she is subscribed to mine) and vice versa.
However, I recently made an appointment for the Apple Store Genius Bar (for an unrelated issue) and received a confirmation email containing an ics file. When trying to add that event to my calendar, I get the error:
"The server responded with an error.
Access to “Technical Support: Mac” in “MY CALENDAR” in account “myaccount@me.com” is not permitted.
The server responded:
“HTTP/1.1 403 Forbidden”
to operation CalDAVWriteEntityQueueableOperation."
I then have the option to Go Offline or Revert to Server.
Interestingly, I had forwarded this email containing the ics file to my wife and she added it to her calendar first. Doing some troubleshooting, I determined that this event could only be added one time globally. Once I deleted the event from her calendar, I was able to successfully add it to mine. Once I added it, she could no longer add it to her calendar, getting the same error message above that I originally got. I then deleted it from my calendar and was able to add it back to hers.
So, it seems, that at least in this case, the error message is somehow related to a restriction on the number of times this event can appear in someone's calendar. My wife and I are both under the same MobileMe master account, but we each have our own individual accounts under this master account. I did not try forwarding the email to someone with an unrelated MobileMe account to see if the same problem exists or not.
BTW, once I added this event to my calendar, I merely added her as an invitee. After that, the event appeared in her notifications window in iCal, and she was able to add the event without a problem.
I don't know if this kind of conflict explains the problems that others are having causing this error message, but hopefully, it might help narrow down the cause for some.
Stu