$ ls -ldO@ /private
drwxr-xr-x 6 root wheel - 204 Dec 7 10:24 /private/
Notice how my folder doesn't have extended attributes.
There is another difference - compare your listing:
ls -ldO@ /private
drwxr-xr-x 6 root wheel - 204 Dec 7 10:24 /private/
with the first line of mine:
$ ls -ldO@ /private
drwxr-xr-x@ 6 root wheel hidden 204 Nov 4 2009 /private
com.apple.FinderInfo 32
Note the word "hidden" after "wheel" in my listing. That is a file flag, which can be added or removed to an item with the Terminal command chflags. *Man chflags* includes the following in its list of flag keywords:
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hidden set the hidden flag \[Hide item from GUI]
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An item will be hidden from Finder if its name begins with a period, OR if it carries a "hidden" flag.
I did some experimenting - I removed the hidden flag from my own /private folder with:
sudo chflags nohidden /private
Two things happened:
1) The /private folder became visible in Finder
2) Both the "hidden" flag
and the "com.apple.FinderInfo" extended attribute disappeared from my listing, such that it was now the same as yours:
$ ls -ldO@ /private
drwxr-xr-x 6 root wheel - 204 Nov 4 2009 /private
I then added back the hidden flag with
sudo chflags hidden /private
Two things happened:
1) The /private folder became invisible again.
2) Both the hidden flag
and the extended attribute re-appeared.
$ ls -ldO@ /private
drwxr-xr-x@ 6 root wheel hidden 204 Nov 4 2009 /private
com.apple.FinderInfo 32
Bottom line: I would still try the command I gave you earlier:
sudo chflags hidden /private