Well, I discovered on the ClickToFlash website that their extension is NOT compatible with 5.1. So I removed that, & instead installed "ClicktoPlugIn". After doing that, I see Safari isn't using quite as much memory, only a couple gigs, instead of four or even five. However, it still runs up the CPU usage as high as 190%, and still stalls out, & usually won't even close on it's own, without being forced quit! I realize now, that only one of the two higher level tech guys I spoke with was being straight with me, the one who told me they were aware of Safari being buggy, and that they would release a fix ASAP (of course this was nearly three weeks ago). The second one gave me the same old, "I've not heard anyone encountering problems with it, it must be your installed plug-ins & extensions", etc, etc., And you would think, if all these problems were due to something as simple as certain plug-ins &/or extensions, that Apple would just release a list of which ones to get rid of! It's not rocket science, but it sure would be good for customer relations. Too bad Apple's been slipping in that department for a number of years now.....
As for Firefox & Chrome, they have not been the most consistent performers either, and Chrome, in particular, has some maddeningly frustrating quirks, that make for a less than smooth experience. I like Safari, feel comfortable using it, and was really happy with the previous version, 1.05. But then they went & attempted to "fix" what wasn't hardly broken, and only made it far, far worse! If I were typing this on Safari, it would take me about 5 times as long, while I waited for the spinnig balls to stop after every sentence,.... or less!