While J D McIninch is correct, that I had to stop and start the Apache2 server to get the new php.ini file, I had been doing that all along.
Frank Caggiano was correct, I had two things wrong with my php.ini file. First, there was a character before [PHP] at the very beginning of the file. And I had to switch the line endings to Unix-Mac OS X (lf) I am using Smultron which was working pretty well except for those pesky line endings.
So, yes if there is anything wrong in the php.ini file, it will not parsed and be used.
In my travels trying to find a solution, I noticed that many people were using TextWrangler from Bare Bones Software to edit system files. It's free and you can get it here:
http://www.barebones.com/products/textwrangler/
And I found an alternate php binary source for Snow Leopard at MacPorts. You can see it here:
http://www.macports.org/index.php
When you download php5, you also get a different Apache2 server. But I didn't use that; I modified the httpd.conf file for my Apple Apache2 server to point to the php module from MacPorts. This did work but when I fixed my php.ini, I went back to Apple's php5.
Thank you J D McIninch and Frank Caggiano for replying to my post. I appreciated your help.
Message was edited by: Jane L