I finally found out what was causing this. Originally I got a call from Apple and the machine was "reset" which caused the jack to work properly for a while. Then it would randomly stop working. I had to plug in the headphones then put the laptop to sleep then wake to get them to be recognized. I just lived with that for a while as I am too busy to be calling and going in to the store for repair. SO glad I got Applecare!
Well, recently my laptop started over heating and then it stopped recognizing the wifi at all. So, I took it in, the logic board needed replacing, wifi connection was loose AND I was told at that time that the power handling for that head phone jack was bad out of the box. They fixed everything except now I'm having a problem again with a slow start up, I get a spinning wheel every time for about a minute before it starts to work properly. YT videos not always displaying properly and it is taking a while for the wifi to be recognized on booting up. It sees it after a minute or so but, not until the wheel finally stops spinning.
The logic board issue was mentioned when I got the first call from Apple but, they said we'd try something else first. This issue started from day one. I lived with the headphone jack issue off and on for a while before the other issues came up. My laptop is an early 2011 and I've had it for just over a year now. SO bottom line it was always the logic board. I am still having glitches with this machine so back to the store I go for another repair I think.