joost, to VNC into your Mac, I put some instructions a bit further up..sec and I'll repost:
Just an FYI, the console commands are unecessary. You can enable screen sharing in Preferences. This is for those that don't like using terminal.
You'll need to perform this on the target Mac you want to remote into:
Open Preferences
--> Internet and Wireless
--> Sharing
Click on Screen Sharing. Add the user accounts you want to allow remote screen sharing for.
The rest you can do from any other Mac by remoting into your problem Mac via VNC:
After that, as already mentioned, you can use Finder to connect to the PC, or just use it's VNC address from the finder GO menu: GO --> Connect to Server --> VNC://computername.local
Note: If you don't want to be bothered with being prompted to choose a login under lion or to bump another account off, you can just specify your credentials in the VNC command like so:
vnc://username:password@computername.local/
So in the above example if my username was widget and my password was dohickey and my Mac was called home1 then it would look like this:
vnc://widget:dohickey@home1.local/