any ideas iam reallly sufeerring from this
You turned it on, and probably forgot. Settings/General/Accessibility
After much stress I finally have found out you can simply TRIPLE click the square button at the bottum of your phone. This will turn voice over OFF/ON.
You could have avoided the stress by reading the manual: http://manuals.info.apple.com/en_US/iphone_user_guide.pdf
Great advice, however since I was not home and even the tech I was talking to did not know... I thought this might be a good piece of knowledge to have handy.
Link to user guide is in safari bookmarks on the phone.
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