It seems I more screwed up than anybody and I'm beginning to wonder if I will be able to fix this.
You see, after I created a new apple ID that I didn't want in order to get past the start up screw-up, I went to apple ID where I discovered my the password for my REAL apple ID needed to be reset, so I did that. THEN I went to iCloud on my iphone but discovered the ID I didn't want could not be removed without deleting the iCloud account, so that's what I did, thinking I could then log in with my regular apple ID. WRONG! I am in a screwy loop that says my ID needs to be verified. When I go to Apple ID and click "Verify", no email is sent to me to verify from.
Also, my 'username' for itunes doesn't work there anymore but luckily, my regular apple ID (the email address I use) does work. Unfortunately, the app store depends on my itunes username (which is permanently entered when it asks for my password), and no password works for that anymore, and when I try to do a password reset from apple, no email arrives. When I try to answer questions to get a password reset online, apple says the birthday date I entered does not match their records, even though it HAS to.
So now I cannot use iCloud, FaceTime, or download or update ANY of my apps! And, I cannot find ANY help for this anywhere online. I'm supremely angry by this and wish I'd NEVER updated my phone which is now SERIOUSLY screwed up compared to what it was before I got hornswoggled into the jackpot IOS5 has turned out to be.
Oh, and a call to apple support informs me it'll cost me mucho dinero to get any help from them. Thanks a lot, Apple!