thanks for your suggestions rphunte42. I have been doing hard resets all along and that does not seem to help. I tried the network reset and that did not help. I've become very vigilant about fully closing apps in case they have any background processes running.
(I also don't have anything fetched automatically. I shut down alerts on almost all apps. My screen brightness is set a little over 1/2)
My usage and standby are still running almost neck and neck... sometimes a few minutes less usage. Today since I unplugged from charger this morning my usage is 6:57 and standby is 7:32 ... so that's better than usual, but I have used the phone for an hour max myself, so I still wonder what is accounting for the other 5:57 usage time while it's been in my pocket.
Any other suggestions? Try the reset all settings next? On another thread I saw someone recommend a complicated procedure for resetting the phone so that 5.1.1 would be re-downloaded and installed all at once, not as an upgrade... any thoughts?