I am having the same problems but with the iphone 4s. I charge to 100% overnight, unplug at 9am and I am at 10% charge by 7pm. I only have regular usage - 30 calls a day, read my emails and a little bit on the web. I do use a blue tooth speaker for my phone calls. I don't use Siri very muchj at all.
The 200 hours of battery life seem like a dream, I would be happy if I could get 20 hours. I really am limited to only 10 hours at the moment if I am careful with the apps I run.
While I am at home this is not a problem, but when I go on a business trip it can be a real problem. I am still taking my ipod on business trips to listen to music or watch a film on the plane - I don't want to risk not being able to use my phone due to low charge when I reach my destimation.
I love everything else about the iphone 4s - I just need the promised battery life.