Naming Reminders won't work.
Reminders in iCal will not allow me to name a list that is the same as a Calendar name. Whats up with that. I liked the old method better - each calendar had its own reminder list.
I am right there with you. It is beyond me how Apple has been completely unable to solve their iCal/ToDo List problems. It took them how many versions of iOS before reminders would actually sync with an iPhone?