Apple support told me to remove the 16GB of memory and replace the original 8GB of memory and test again. For 5 days I have been flash free. My bet is that we have a cure....why the problem?: The MBP 13" shares the memory with the processor, unlike the upper models which have thier own.This means there will be bus sharing arbitration and some more critical memory timings. This is me the engineer talking... Changes in the timings of the memories can occasionally cause a failure which could result in a temporary lock up, showing as a blink. What is not explained is why the computer monitor does not suffer this as well as the external but then I am not really privy to the architectural details. This is my best guess.
The DMMs I used were bargain DIMMS from Corsair. I am going to try the higher priced (presumably better spec) parts form Corsair as well as the Crucial DIMMs which feature higher density chips. The higher density means half the theoretical capacitance and drive on the bus lines and slightly differrent timing characteristics.