Siri, wife relationship not working correctly

where did you indicate to Siri who your wife is? I can't figure that out, so, Siri says to me, "I don't know who your wife is"...

Juan - I'm pretty sure the field you're talking about is not being used correctly

To my best knowledge - when you go to your wife's card and select "SPOUSE" it is asking you who your wife's spouse is, as it should leave a field blank to input the name - in turn, you're not indicating your spouse by selecting that field (I hope that makes sense)

Instead, open Siri up and say to her "Siri, my wife is Jennifer Hasan" (or whatever your wife's name is - lol)

Siri should then confirm it by showing a list of names and asking you to pick the correct one for safekeeping - the same process should work for children, mother, etc

I hope that helps?

This happens to me as well.

In my Contacts, I have set my "spouse" as XYZ, and my "sister" as ABC, and "mother as "DEF" etc. I can call or text them with the command "text my spouse|mother|sister" etc, or "tell my spouse that…" etc etc.

But I cannot say "text my wife". If I do that, I get the same problem as the juan carlos (the original poster) does.

I've tried all the voice commands such as set x as my wife, or my wife is x etc, and found just adding the relations to my Contacts was the most reliable.

I live in Australia, and have Siri language set to Australian English, which may/may not be a factor. But I haven't seen anyone else, aside on this forum, describe this phenomenon.

I was having this problem too and found the solution!!

Siri knows who you are by Settings->General->Siri->'My Info.' My Info should be your own contact information from in your Contacts.

At first I thought 'Related People' entires were for you to note who that person was to you. Ex: John Doe is my spouse. However, it is really for people related to that person. Therefore, in order to have Siri forget a relationship to YOU, you need to delete that person from 'Related People' under your OWN contact information. You can also add 'Related People' in to have Siri know them going forward.

I hope this helps!!! 😁

Hi,

I am having the exact same problem. I posted a similar thread before realising this one was here. I have just tried Ali's suggestion above ie opening up Siri and saying "my wife is Abigail ******". Siri then asked if I wanted it to remember Abigail ****** as my wife? I tapped yes and it told me it had updated the relationship. Yet the next minute when I asked to text my wife the same problem occurred: "sorry I have no wife number for David ******". Resetting the phone doesn't seem to work.

Hi all,

It's happening to me to. I have tried various ways of adding and removing my wife's details and still no luck. One thing I have noticed is when my wife is listed as my spouse and I tell Siri to call my wife she says there is no wife number BUT when I tried saying "call my husband"... it worked! I'm assuming Siri doesn't know your gender so will translate wife or husband as spouse but the question still remains... why doesn't she understand wife! Or does Siri actually know if you are male or female??

If you already checked under your own contact and your relationships there are correct ie your spouse is listed, maybe its the way you ask Siri. For example instead of "call my wife" maybe Siri only understands "call my spouse" because thats the term it was programmed to classify your wife's name under. Hope this helps!

you might try pulling up you wife's contact from the contacts. Have her name and contact info on the screen when you press the button to activate Siri. Then say "her name" is my wife"

this worked for me, then Siri says "do you want me to save "so and so" as "your wife?" I click yes.

My problem occurred when I tried to save other family members I got this error message:

The adress book service that stores your contact information doesn't allow me to change that.

So has anyone found a way around this problem?

BTW it works for me when I say, "Text my wife, or call my wife" Hopefully the key is getting the right contact identified as the spouse for the user.

I'm late to this conversation, but I have had this issue for over a year now. After messing around with it for an hour today I believe I know what is causing the issue. For some reason when you ask to add "Jane Doe" as your wife, siri will add "Jane Doe" as your spouse (husband) and make YOU the wife. I can confirm this by asking siri to call my husband (which I am the husband), it will call my wife instead. I have the contact for myself listed in siri with only one spouse relationship. Here are the steps I did from a complete reinstall and no contact relationships:

1) set myself as the main siri contact

2) tell siri that "Jane Doe" is my wife

3) siri then adds "Jane Doe" as my spouse

4) if I say "text my wife" it cannot find a phone number and wants to use my own phone number

5) if I say "text my husband" it will proceed to text my wife

tldr, siri can't text your wife because she thinks you're the wife

I can confirm this even in italian language, I have to say "text my husband" to text my wife...it is strange because if I ask "who is my wife" the answer is correct; anyway to fix the problem you have to add a nick name to your wife contact and the nick should be "My Wife", after a couple of minutes if you ask "text my wife" works (because of the nick), and of course "text my husband" works too (because of your own relationship)...hoping Apple will fix this soon!

Interesting....

I just set this up without using "wife" and it works with Siri. I went into Contacts for my name, edited it, added a "related name" of spouse and chose my wife's Contact entry.

I told Siri, "call my spouse" and Siri asked me which phone number to dial for <wife's name>.

EDIT: I setup "related name" of child and chose my daughter's Contact entry. I told Siri, "call my daughter" and Siri asked me which phone number to dial for <daughter's name>.

I also asked Siri to "call my wife" and Siri again asked me (like above), which phone number to dial for <wife's name>.

Did what you asked... "text my wife" and Siri asked, "what do you want to say to <wife's name>".

Asking Siri "text my spouse", Siri asked, "Ok, I can send a message to <wife's name> for you... what would you like it to say".

Make sure under your Contact information, your wife is added as "related name" and spouse. Select her Contact record.

And make sure you are added under your wife's Contact information as "related name" and spouse. Select your Contact record.

This issue only effects a small percent of users, but it is still annoying. Strange thing is that it lasted through iOS 6 to iOS 7 and multiple devices. I have the same issue with my new phone. All relationships are correct. Be thankful you don't have the issue.

Same here, exasperating. I tell Siri my wifes name and she asks me if I want to remember it. I push yes. She adds the relationship to my contact list as spouse. I ask Siri to call my wife. She says no wife number is listed. I go to contacts and add my wife with the "custom" label of 'wife'. Now I have both a spouse and a wife. Is it just me or has Apple flipped their lid? Why is there not a standard label for 'wife' (or 'husband' for that matter)? Now I have two contact relationships for my wife. I ask Siri to call, she says no, I do not have a wife listed. I ask her who my wife is, and she pulls up the contact page for my wife, but still cannot seem to place the call. The ONLY way to call my wife is by name alone. Rediculous. Either of my sons? No problem. My mother? No problem. But the one I call by far the most is my wife. Apply? Do you read any of these?