2) The hard drive icon does not show up in the Utility Folder so there is nothing to click on to bring it up.
Open the program Disk Utility (in the Utilities folder in the Applications folder) and then see if the drive is listed.
If Disk Utility can not 'see' the drive, you may be able to resurrect it in different ways.
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If you have access to DiskWarrior, try using it to repair that drive. Even though the OS and Disk Utility can not 'see' the drive, DiskWarrior may be able to, and if so, to effect repairs.
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If you have access to a PC (windows machine), try connecting the drive to it. If you can reformat it on that machine to a PC (windows) format, do so.
Then bring it back to the Mac and see if you can get Disk Utility to 'see' it. If it does, reformat it again as a Mac drive, setting your partitions again.
Note - this procedure will erase everything on the drive.
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I know this has been said, but always dismount an external drive (USB or firewire) before disconnecting it. Two ways to dismount an external drive -
• Drag its icon to the Trash. When the Trash icon changes to an eject symbol, drop the drive's icon into it.
• Select the drive's icon by clicking it once, then select Eject from the File menu.