I'm not sure if there's an averge metric, but in my own case I'm still at ~85% matched in general (USA user, btw). Generally my uploads are either 100% uploads for an album (as the album in question is OOP and thus not in iTunes, for example) ot I get those one-off uploads that many people are complaining about.
The only time I've had albums with like 50% upload rates (so far) have been with different masterings. I'll use The Beatles as an example -- the 1980's CD rips definitely have matching issues above the usual one-off errors, but the 2009 CD rips usually match 100% for me. So if you happen to have a lot of CD rips from albums that have been remastered once or twice since your CD purchase, this could be the issue you're having.
Also something to potentially consider is the different pressings between the US and UK. We don't know how iTunes is making their AAC files, but if it's a CD source and a US CD source specifically, there's a possibility that a UK CD rip might be different enough to go over their threshold. I've been posting to a vinyl thread here where we are convinced that the thresholds Apple is using currently to match seem way too high and could problaby be tweaked a little better. In our opinion, of course. 🙂
As for throttling, I don't believe iTunes has anything internal to reduce the bandwidth in use, but I suspect that there are third-party tools that might be able to do throttling at the application level.