Hi,
Both Defcom and I use an app called Little Snitch.
This can tell you what Port and IP addresses an app is trying to access (you can set it up so you see thre request and have to Agree it)
It can pick up on the packet headers and reports the Public IP that your ISP gives you and the LAN IP the computer has.
(iChat can get really confused if you connect by Ethernet and WiFi to the router (your Netgear) or even have a connection to another Network that has internet access such as a Wifi to a neighbour)
Little Snitch will tell you the moment an Invite comes (port 5678) and when it moves to do the SIP bit (port 16402 as first choice in iChat 4 upwards)
As they know you have several computers I am surprised that the ISP wanted to have the MacBook Pro's MAC address when you took the router out of the Loop (I have not seen any ISP do that for a long time)
As you say, the switch should not make any difference as it is just a dumb device that adds extra ethernet Ports to your LAN.
The ones I have are also spread out around my house.
The modem/combine router in in the living room near the phone socket as I have DSL
One Ethernet cable then comes to the first Hub/Switch where I have my Tower, MacBook Pro and iMac.
A cable then goes to one upstairs in one bedroom and a cable from that room hops the Landing via the roof space to do the rear bedroom (X-box 360, windows tower, MacBook Pro, the Digital Box for the TV)
To be honest Defcom helped me out in 2004 when I came here looking for info on iChat and he came up with some inof on the Firmware on my then Thomson-Alcatel modem/router.
I have said and some what concentrated on iChat.
I have had Geniuses test with me in the past and from what I see about info the Apple Care sometimes put out, I am sure that Defcom and I know more than most of them.
It it was the router's SIP ALG getting in the way then the "no router" test should have highlighted that.
That leaves something about iChat,
Something about the MacBook Pro
Or something else about the service provided by the ISP
I see I thought earlier you had two Laptops but one is in fact MacPro tower.
Do you get the same results on both ?
There is no Phone tethered to either computer providing an additional route to the Internet ?
(previously in Leopard that was an Issue with Internet Sharing with the computer that did the sharing - I have not retested this in Lion - but also no-one has reported any symptoms).
So...
Any Double Logins by the computers to the router ?
Any Internet Sharing going on ?
Any phone providing more Internet Access to one or more computers ?
11:36 PM Tuesday; January 31, 2012
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