I think my problem is related but it is hard to figure just how "alerts/notification" are controlled.
In brief, how do I set calendar email alerts to be sent only to my computer? I already have a specific email address which is only sent to my computer. Why can't I get that address to in the alert list?
When making a new calendar event I want to set a email alert to the email address which only goes to MY computer. I'm not given the choice for MY address. The only choice i'm given is my shared email address.
In OS 10.8 I did find away to set multiple email address in the alert dropdown menu. It didn't work the way I wanted but at least I could set multiple addresses.
It seems to me that Apple should explain more fully just how alerts and notifications work. Of course the iCloud adds more confusion.