Oh my goodness after 3 days of reading forums and trying EVERYthing...rorygilmore your post was the solution
Thank you SOOOOO much! I could just give you a virtual hug, thats how HAPPY i am!
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!
post from rorygilmore
It took some time, but I found this and it worked! Whew.... This is such a common glitch you'd think Apple would have a fix for it by now. Anyway, here is what I found and it's all good now, hope it helps someone else. (Courtesy of this website:http://iphonewriter.blogspot.co.nz/2008/05/how-to-fixing-ical-iphone-sync-issues .html)
"You'll know the syncing issue when you see it, because the new events you enter into the Calendar on your Apple iPhone will not appear in iCal. Said another way, you'll enter a new event into your iPhone, use iTunes to sync with your Mac (or MacBook in our case) and the new event on your iPhone will not show up in iCal. Keep trying, synch as you might, iCal and the Apple iPhone just won't get along.
Here's the down and dirty fix:
That's it! You should be all set and iTunes, iCal and our Apple iPhone should all be playing nicely as friends again. We've used the exact method to repair our own Apple iPhone at least once... maybe even twice."
rorygilmore's solution definitely works, and I've used it several times, so thank you for that! But before trying it, it's worth trying this quicker and easier fix, which sometimes works just as well:
1. Open iTunes and go to the iPod/iPhone window.
2. Click on the Info tab.
3. Uncheck Sync Calendars. You will get a window warning you that iTunes will no longer sync calendars, an do you want to keep or remove calendars previously synced; click the "Keep Calendars" button.
4. Sync your iPod/iPhone.
5. After it finishes syncing, recheck Sync Calendars and sync again.
6. Check your desktop calendar--if it added the missing iPod/iPhone calendar items, you're good to go. If not, refer back to the rorygilmore's fix.