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Parental Control/Game time limiter

Hi,


we have a 13 year old and controlling his user habits on the ipod touch is really hard. The Problem comes from all the stuff an ipod can do. It´s not only a web browser, it´s a gaming device and an walkmen plus plus plus.


So we have an agreement saying he can play 2 hours of games per day. But after playing on his iPod or on his Wii I still see him on his iPod. Of course he´s going like:"I´m only listening to music", which in most cases was true, but it is incredibly easy for him to cheat on this agreement. The problem is that it is a real pain in the neck to be after him all the time to see what he is doing with his iPod and of course he is feeling controlled.


No here is what I want to do:


- I want to prevent my boy from using the ipod at night. Pretty much in a way I saw in the parental control menu on my MBP.

- Next, I want to limit his game time. Sure there are a lot of third party solutions out there. But they don´t work for me. I want him to play say between 20min. to X hours a day. I want to set up a timer with my password that my boy can´t change. So once I hand the iPod back to him I can be sure he plays no more than 2 hours a day. After the 2 hours of game time: nada. he can´t play anymore. And the timer resets itself on the next day.


At the same time I want him to be able to listen to his music on the iPod even after the timer locked down the games. Because IMHO he can listen to music as much as he wants.


And of course I want him to be able to surf Wikipedia and the like after the timer locked down. Something like an "educational mode" maybe, that is restricted to very few sites?


And yes, I´m aware that it is all about communication and trust. But teenage boys NEED control in certain areas of their life. Badly.

iPod touch, iOS 5.1

Posted on Apr 16, 2012 6:56 AM

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May 24, 2013 5:27 AM in response to Mitchs2013

I've seen that Kindle advertisement, and I think it is sad. To think that today's parents do not have enough back bone to teach their children how to behave, and then they abdicate their parental authority to a computer...


Perhaps more people should have watched the last two Dr. Phil programs. Was about a mother and her 23 year old son. As a parent she failed miserably (too self absorbed and did not bother to teach her son anything....) and she could not understand why her son was not prepared for the real world... Search for "Its Either Me or Your Deadbeat Son.."

May 24, 2013 7:48 AM in response to cliftonfromrichmond

cliftonfromrichmond are you some sort of parenting expert? I don't see the credentials.


Parental controls are a tool. People are not looking for computer company X to solve all their parenting issues. They are looking for tools to help them in the day to day busy lives. Just like people use their cars to shuttle little Johnny to school, soccer, pick up the groceries or use their cell phone to call their partner from the grocery store to ask if they need more milk. Tools to help make our lives easier in an increasingly busy world.


Go to any medium or large corporation and they have the same 'controls' implemented on their servers and desktops to prevent staff (adults no less) from using their assets to access adult content, hate or whatever people are into.


In closing...


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May 24, 2013 8:01 AM in response to danagerous420

I did not imply anything. I came right out and said it. Sure must have hit a nerve...


The fact of the matter is, if you teach your children to be responsible and to be honest, and if you show them some restpect, you won't have to worry about how much time they spend using their 'toys," or worry about who they are talking to, or who their friends are or where they go on the 'Net, and you will never have to bail them out of jail.

May 24, 2013 8:22 AM in response to danagerous420

It no use argumenting...

He has destroyed any constructive discussion within this thread ~10 times before over a period of half a year, with the same style as above.

The worst outbursts have been removed from the history, by Apple moderators.


I also notice that they edited your comment about trolling.


To Apple: please focus your moderator cencorship acts towards Mr cliftonfromrichmond - I would not simply call his behaviour in this tread trolling - I call it verbal sabotage. In fact, you could do even more - remove this user completely from the support community. I cannot judge behaviour in other fora/threads, but in this thread, comments have been destructive rather than helpful and this has been the case for along time now. As far as I can see, the first two items of the Community etiqutte rules have been consistently violated in every posting by Mr cliftonfromrichmond.

May 24, 2013 1:52 PM in response to christian heretic

Ok, so let me get this straight.


Following your logic, teaching my children to be responsible, respectful and teaching them how to discipline themselves, is bullying.


So then, to follow your logic even further, by setting rules and holding my children accountable for their actions is also bullying.


And by telling you the truth and shining a light on you error I am also being a bully..


So ultimately, any one who sets any sort of rule or behavioral guideline is also a bully, and in that context, society and anything society does to define what is and what is not acceptable or appropriate behavoir is nothing but a big mean bully whose only purpose it to torment you.


And if I take it even further, by imposing parental controls on what your children do and by using those controls to limit the amount of time your children can spend doing what they want to do, you are aslo being a bully...


So then, let me ask you this: Who is the "bigger bully"? Is it the person who imposes their will on another, or is it the person who teaches what it means to be a good citizen lets them choose how they wish to behave?

Jul 28, 2013 1:35 PM in response to Struwwwelpeter

Try this.....


http://www.amazon.com/electronics/dp/B000GU78UY


It's called the "bob" and you can hook one up to your computer and one on the xbox. You set a password and a time limit. Say you set it for a 2 hour limit... it gives warnings and then will shut down the systems. There may be an updated version that will work for you. Good luck! It's hard having teens!!!

Aug 18, 2013 10:07 PM in response to cliftonfromrichmond

I'm new here and have read thru this entire thread. Maybe iOS7 will provide what we are all looking for?


I completely agree that we, as parents, have a responsibility to teach our children to be responsible, respectful and to be disciplined. There is no question that children should be accountable for their actions - this is how they learn. However, it is not unreasonable to request the capability to put time limits to internet access and gaming on the iPhone, iTouch, and iPad.


I grew up in a very disciplined household but back in the day we did not have these distracting devices. If I would have had unlimited access to an iTouch when I was a teenager, I would not have slept. These devices are fascinating and the internet is a big place.


I don't want to take the device away from my teenager. I think she should have it in her possesion and learn discipline and proper etiquet. There is nothing wrong with the parental desire to shut things down after a designated hour so the temptation is not there. My laptop and desktop computers have that capability and my kids have never had an issue when their time runs out.


The act of physically taking away a device day after day becomes problematic and we cannot always be present to ensure that this happens. A little help from Apple here would go a long way.

Sep 5, 2013 10:17 AM in response to Struwwwelpeter

I found a solution that Apple will not like. I have the same problem with my 3 kids- ages 13, 14 and 15. My solution was: forget the I-pad. I installed Microsoft Family Safety Parental Control on their lap tops. This program allows for all the needs that you stated above- curfew, max hours per day, only certain games or certain web sites are OK to play. Here is a link to the video explaining the speks.http://windows.microsoft.com/en-us/windows7/help/videos/using-parental-controls# tab=desktop

For the tablet- I am looking at a tablet that will have Windows on it (instead of I-pad )so I can still have Family Safety on it. Unfortunately, I will need Windows 8 because it is the only operating system that will allow max hours per day limit. Therefore, I will have to get Surface Pro. They suck, but if Apple does not make an app that is essential to my happiness and my kid's sleep pattern I will not use mac Apple product.


Hopefully someone from Apple will read this.

Seriously.

Parental Control/Game time limiter

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