The file is there, but is in your user Library, hidden by default in Lion (hold the option key while clicking on the Finder's 'Go' menu to see it). However the relevant file is actually (user)/Library/Safari/Bookmarks.plist, and in any case you shouldn't tamper with it.
Please see this page for help with difficulties syncing Bookmarks:
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