Ok, so i Made the test, the only item i had on that list was "Itunes Helper", i checked the box, and restarted everything.
the battery life is just the same.
i think we reached again a Dead end, the Safe mode experiment proved the Problem is not on a Deep OS layer, but it is there, somewhere, and seems like not easy to be found.
starting to get tired of this, if I could I would just Go back to Snow Leopard, my only fear is to loose my Windows on the bootcam and all the software I use to work and whose installers i dont have at hand and Get the same problem anyway.
this *****.