That only appears when you have iOS 5+ installed, if your iPad is on iOS 4 then you will need to do the update via your compuer's iTunes.
Connect the iPad to your computer's iTunes and copy any purchases off the iPad to your computer via File > Transfer Purchases (you may also want to copy photos off the iPad as well) and then force a backup of the iPad by right-clicking the iPad 'Device' on the left-hand side of iTunes and selecting 'Backup'. You may also want to copy off the iPad any important documents, notes, files etc e.g. via the file sharing section at the bottom of the device's apps tab when connected to iTunes, via wifi, email, dropbox etc - they should be included in the backup, but it's best to have a copy of them outside of the backup just in case.
You can then start the update by selecting the iPad on the left-hand side of iTunes, and on the Summary tab on the right-hand side clicking the Check For Updates button.
Updating to iOS 5+ : http://support.apple.com/kb/HT4972
The question has been answered by King Penguin but apparently you don't see it.
Are you running iOS 5 on your iPad currently? My guess is no you are not. If you are not running iOS 5 you do NOT have that setting in your iPad. You have to update the iPad to iOS 5 before you get that feature in the settings on the iPad.
Do you see the link that King Penguin also posted for the instructions as to how to update your iPad? Apparently you don't see that either.