10.8.2 and still not resolved.
I need to partially rewrite my description of the connection errors. iTunes and iPhoto do not connect to their libraries when launched with all shares disconnected after sleep. But they still can find their libraries on the shared volumes when launched prior to sleep.
I have the feeling our problem is not related to any issues with a NAS firmware, afp protocol or anything that's related to problems between devices communicating with each other. It's a problem deep in the core of 10.8, especially the sleep routines or the control of logic board components. Why?
1.) I had a few problems with a running Safari after sleep. It always took up to 30 seconds to get an updated website. Always together with a "There is no connection to the internet" info text in the browser window.
2.) Since 10.8.1, i had a few instances where the Ethernet connection completely refused to work after sleep. No connection to anything in my private network. Only a restart of my computer got the LAN back to work.
3.) It happend twice so far, that the Finder froze when trying to reconnect manually to a shared folder. Again, only a restart helped.
Please allow me to say that 10.8 is among the worst Mac OS versions ever. I have worked with Macs since System 7. Even my System 6 Classic Macintosh has a rock solid network connection compared to 10.8.