I think that I have a 1st generation ipod touch. When I go to the setting menu then general there is no option to update. I'm connected to wi-fi but still can not connect to itunes? I reset it...
Sounds like you have an old iOS...you will need to plug it into a computer with iTunes and an internet connection and update that way.
iOS 5 introduces over-the-air updates.
The first generation iPod Touch runs version 3.1.3. See if that is what it says in Settings > General > About > Version.
when i plug it in it says that it's up to date
it says the version is 1.1.5 (4B1)
Here you go then: Purchasing iOS 3.1 Software Update for iPod touch (1st generation)
It will set you back $4.95 + tax.
Also you'll want to make sure your iTunes is up to date.
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