I hope we're not sitting and waiting too much longer.
I just bought my new Mini 2.3 i7 yesterday. I also picked up a used monitor to use with it from a guy on Craigslist. I get everything home and set up. UGH! The guy sold me a junk monitor (so I thought)! Same exact issues listed here. This setup was HDMI>DVI.
So, today, I ran to Best Buy and bought a new Acer LED monitor S230HL Abii with HDMI. Better, but basically still the same problems...
If I use a Mini Displayport to HDMI adapter, it seems a little better, but still nothing to brag about. I'm not about to go out and buy a VGA adapter that I shouldn't need, so I guess I'll be sitting and waiting for 10.8.3 like everyone else. This new monitor is HDMI and VGA only, no DVI.
I held off a little longer thinking this issue was recently fixed. I see it wasn't, yet...
I'm almost wishing I would've kept my mid-2010 iMac Core i3 a little longer. It's bad enough this only has 4GB versus the 12GB my iMac had (for now). So far, this mini isn't impressing me for being a quad-core i7.