i cannot get my ipod to sync to receive new purchases
i have tried to copy/paste and drag fromn library to playlist with no luck
i keeps asking me to erase old and sync to new
You can only sync with one iTunes library/computer. From the information you posted yo are try to sync with another library.
You can however manage music and videos among different computers. See:
Using iPhone, iPad, or iPod with multiple computers
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