I can not turn on Wi-Fi - it is shaded out so you can not turn it on! Anyone have a fix for this or is it just trash?

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iOS: Wi-Fi or Bluetooth settings grayed out or dim

An appointment at the Genius Bar of an Apple store is usually in order.

Apple Retail Store - Genius Bar

I had the exact same issue with a 2 year old iPhone. I read up on it all day and tried everything. Last ditch - I tried a weird solution I found online and it worked. Overheat the iPhone gently with a hot hair dryer until it gives the Temperature alert and goes into recovery mode.

Now put it in a Ziplock bag and place it in the freezer for 5-10 minutes. If it comes back on you are ready to do teh following.

Go to Settings / General / Reset / Reset Network Settings. Reset it.

This takes a few mins. Once complete - force reboot the iPhone holding down the Home and Power buttons for about 10 second simultaneously. Once you see the Apple reboot let go.

It's weird - it was my last roll of the dice - but it worked. I was able to switch on the WiFi and it connected.

There is a Canadian post online where many people have had the same success