Yes, on the SSD. Just setting up all the adjustments to settings and preferences. I am in Australia now, and the memory was purchased at Amazon in the states, so not sure if returning will be worth the shipping cost, but I will look into it. It is tempting to put the memory back in, but I think not as I have lost to much time on my own software projects on this. I will follow up as far as If I read correctly in that this memory is okay for the mid 2009 MBP.
Again your help has been very useful in that it gave clear steps to follow and after all the trials and failures it gave space for the thought about the memory to arise. Gave it a go and it worked.