iPhones are not intended to be sole storage of content.
I understand your old computer crashed, but relying solely on an iPhone that can easily be lost, stolen, or damaged beyond repair is not smart.
You do realize that if the device were lost, stolen, or damaged beyond repair that all your content would be lost, correct?
Fix the real issue, get all your content onto your computer. https://discussions.apple.com/docs/DOC-3991
Once that is done, the iPhone can be updated via iTunes without any concern about lost content.
Also, while you can email yourself the pictures from the device, depending on how many pictures and videos are on the device, this could take an eternity. The simple way is to copy the pictures from the device to the computer as you would with any digital camera. This in no way involves iTunes. Importing personal photos and videos from the iPhone to a computer