Hi
In a Buddy list you can change the Status and also the messages it show to your Buddies as well
There are some default ones from Apple and you can make your own.
The .plist tends to be Saved ones.
The imessages.bag one only holds the Server you happen to be logged in to.
I don't have an Alias of this one in the soagent folder in Containers.
the first of the messageshelper items holds details of all the Buddies fro all the Buddy List then it moves on to iMessages handles as they are called.
Some are listed as Valid and some Invalid but for me it does not list everyone I have ever contacted.
It does the same for FaceTime as well as Favourites for the same, so a plain deletion is not the way I would go.
It can be Edited in Xcode which is free to download.
The second messageshelper one you list holds the Off Line on Quit Setting made in Messages > Preferences > General section and whether the Status Menu item is visible (I think this gets turned Off if you have no Buddies Lists at All) It is in the App Menu itself.
Some .plists don't show you all the info they influence unless you change the settings that effect it.
I am sure the soagent.plist itself does control more but it lists very little.
Mine is saying it has not been changed sine 11Jul 2014.
I see little point in deleting it to solve the large iMessages if that is the cause.
Deleting to try and reduce the Activity Monitor CPU usage might have some merit. DO it whilst FaceTime and Messages are shut down.
I was not talking about the amount of items in an iMessages as this is handled differently.
It does seem though that there might be a character limit.
However it seems to be quite large that even extended writing does not seem to trigger it.
An excessive Paste job will do it it seems.
If it is a large section of text either Sent or Receive get Time Machine to Restore ~/Library/Messages to just before this happened.
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