A black monitor screen can be caused by a dead internal battery on the motherboard. The 6400/6500s use a 4.5-volt alkaline battery (Rayovac 870, 871, or equivalent) that's secured to the motherboard with velcro. Even if you're not going to install a new one, it's a good idea to remove weak or dead alkaline-based batteries from those computers, because they eventually leak and damage the motherboard.
A compatible video card must have a Mac ROM, which rules out the use of cards marketed for use with PCs (unless they've had their ROM chip flashed with a Mac firmware). Check eBay for a used Mac ATI Rage Pro card with 4 or 8 MBs of SGRAM. When I was buying used ones a few years ago, they sold for about $25-$35. Today, they probably sell for about $10-$15. They provide a substantial improvement over the onboard graphics chip on the 6400's motherboard, and a noticeable improvement over the 6500's onboard ATI chip.
The COMM II slot cards install just like PCI cards, with steady downward pressure until they are fully-seated.
Mac OS versions 7.6, 8, 8.5, and 9 aren't available for free download. You can download the updates for each - 7.6.1, 8.1, 8.5.1, 8.6, 9.1, 9.2.1, and 9.2.2. There are Mac dealers online that sell these (universal, retail version) installer CDs, but you'll likely pay less if you find an individual selling one at eBay. I'd avoid buying another Mac's restore CD, because they often lack specific drivers that support the unique hardware found on certain Macs.