You can ignore the update; that's a feature available within the Software Update screen. Select the update, and use the Update > Ignore Update item in the Software Update menus.
As for the ARD client and related, AFAIK that's also associated with the screen sharing tool that's available via Finder, and (even if you're not using ARD) quite handy when you have more than one Mac around. In the left column of Finder, select the target system and (if the target system has enabled Screen Sharing in the Sharing preference panel of System Preferences) select Share Screen button. I've long ago pinned the Screen Sharing tool into the dock. It's a useful tool. FWIW.
Deleting pieces of OS X is not something I'd recommend.