I can't update or download apps or music from iTunes
Is your iPhone trying to update and/or download more than one app at a time right now?
If so, click on all the apps to get them out of "Waiting" and into "Paused" state.
Then download one app at a time. Let it complete, then go to the next, and repeat.
It doesn't get that far. I can open iTunes or the App Store, but when I tap the update or download button nothing happens
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