The only way to know whether Java 6 or Java 7 is enabled for your browser is to go to this site and it will tell you: http://www.java.com/en/download/testjava.jsp. You can't be certain from the Java Control Panel, the Java Preferences or the Terminal command "java -version" as the Apple software and Oracle software are not aware of each other.
just wondering tho if i turn java off in Safari pref. does that turn it off in the Oracle or do I need to go to the Java preferences in my system preferences?
Yes, disabling it in Safari will turn either off for web use and if you use any other browser you will need to disable Java for it, as well. I think you will find that you are unable to uncheck the preference in the Java Control Panel anyway. It's been reported to them, but for some reason they still haven't fixed it.