Is there any way to use Apple TV with out remote control?
You can use remote app from the app store, it will control ATv for you from an iOS device.
I cant get to the settings to reset it on a new network
You need the original remote to set up the Apple TV before you can use the remote app.
You will need to purchase a new one or borrow one that isn't paired to set up again as Winston said you need an original to set up. Thereafer the app works (misplaced my silver remot last night so watched film using iPod as remote).
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