I have the same problem -
Apple doesn't seem to care to resolve this long standing problem.
What a hassle trying to download updates & merge & share Data between Apple devices.
Lucky it is a competitive marketplace, i have loved Apple products & currently most of my portfolio is Apple stock but it seems every day they get a little more arrogant.
Every day Android gets bigger & better & is certainly more flexible.
If Apple can't fix basic & known problems - we vote with our wallets & sell their stock before the world catches on.