Thank you for the response Walter but unfortunately this did not help my plight. The information in the link you provided is the same kind of stuff I have been reading all evening. I do not understand how to obtain the answers to my specific questions above. Mail.com do not have a telephone customer services and Apple's are closed for the day.
Can anyone explain this is simple terms?
I found this:
Hope it helps
Setting up a mail.com account
I was having the worst time setting up myaccount server settings, and I imagine others have as well - especially when it came to getting you mail to send. There's very little advice on the topic, none I've found specific to the Droid line up and, the recommended settings are false bits of trash. For one, you don't need to set up IMAP settings, POP service is free. First, ignore them and enter these settings.
Port is 995
Your email address, whatever your suffix is (mine ends in )
Check secure connection, do not check verify certificate
Port is 587
Email address and password as above
DO NOT CHECK SECURE CONNECTION OR VERIFY CERTIFICATE- this will cause all of your sent messages to fail.