I forgot my security answers and the (forgot answer) option dosn't show !

The option to send reset info only appers if you have a rescue email address (which is not the same thing as an alternate email address) set up on your account. If it doesn't show then I assume that you don't have a rescue email address, in which case see if the instructions on this user tip helps : https://discussions.apple.com/docs/DOC-4551