levindenboer1975: Chances are good that you've got a completely different issue than the OP — the OP appears to be having an issue with one message that's stuck, and with a message that they've sent themselves — where your issue appears to be one involving what is probably reflected spam, or something similar.
If you're hit with one of those spam runs, you can end up with a very large number of messages. I've seen these that have the messages arriving as fast as the pipe and the server could deliver them; the botnets are bigger than the bandwidth of most any mail servers. (And there are too many mail servers around that still bounce stuff.)
Check the settings on your mail server around discarding the messages, whether via greylisting, via filtering for whatever is common in the messages or training SpamAssassin, by ensuring the sending DNS is correct, or just by dumping all the mail into the bucket until the barrage is over. There are documents on greylisting, SpamAssassin and dealing with spam on OS X Server here and here.