HT4513: Apple TV: Apple Remote unexpectedly controls a MacLearn about Apple TV: Apple Remote unexpectedly controls a Mac
Currently Being ModeratedMar 9, 2013 2:41 PM (in response to Adriansec)
This can easily be done.
Follow the instructions in the link and MAKE SURE that you are logged into the same network as your Home Network sharing account.
Currently Being ModeratedMar 10, 2013 3:25 PM (in response to .methwolf)
That article looks like it offers the answer.
Between the time of my post and the time of your reply I discovered the answer was actually my confusion between the meaning of a linking to iTunes and linking to a Shared iTunes.
In order to accomplish my goal I had to Disconnect the linked iTunes account and relink to the iTunes account on my Mountain Lion computer. After that everything fell into place and the options were available as I thought they should have been in the first place.
I hope my discovery and your reply will help another who may yet stumble on the same issue.