my sharing is on and shared show up but wont load library

so i have my sharing turned on and set up properly and when i open my phones ipod and go to more shared shows up but when i go to load my library it wont load the library i have tried redoing the home sharing i have tried everything i can think of and nothing will work please if you know how to solve the problem help me out this is becoming very annoying apple mkaes wonderful products but none of them atleast in my home want to work properly and it is really starting to irritate me!