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Blakereilyn Level 1 (0 points)

Help! Borderline going crazy. I can't get out of a group iMessage that someone else created.

No, I've already asked them to delete the group message and start fresh leaving me out of it & they haven't or won't do it.

No, turning off group messaging in my settings doesn't resolve the issue.

No, deleting that conversation on my iphone doesn't work either. They still keep coming through!!!

From what I've researched, this problem has existed for several years with iPhones. What the heck! Please tell me someone has come up with a solution/fix/app for this. It's obsurd that a company like Apple let this slip through the cracks in their programming.

iPhone 4S
  • Ocean20 Level 6 (13,570 points)

    You cant if someone else creates the group.  They choose who is in the group message.  Apple cannot control the group makeup that someone might choose when they send a message.  It is an individual thing at the control of the person who sends the message

  • Ocean20 Level 6 (13,570 points)

    Why is that so hard to understand?  I fyou elect to say send an email to several people as a group why do you think that anyone other than you can control who gets to be in that group..  No different from what you say about messages.  If you elect to send letters to a group of people and one of them says dont send letters to me but you ignore their request and keep sending them letters should they blame the postman if they still get letters that you keep sending.  Get real!

  • Blakereilyn Level 1 (0 points)

    Thank god I have unlimited text messages in my plan. This could break the bank if I had to pay per text. Legally, apple should be responsible for creating a solution. Emails require an unsubscribe link, all other phones/texting apps have the capability to opt out or leave a conversation too. So does Facebook. Why not iPhones?!

  • Ocean20 Level 6 (13,570 points)

    You still dont get it do you.  You dont pay to receive messages!  You pay to send.  If you do not want people to have the ability to send you messages then throw away your phone and delete your email account and remove your letterbox from your house and that way noone will be able to send you anything you dont want

  • Blakereilyn Level 1 (0 points)

    Letters that arrive don't hinder my ability to read or send other letters. Letters also don't make a ringing noise as they arrive.

  • ThrowinThatNoNo Level 1 (0 points)

    You used to be able to leave conversation under the edit button on earlier models of the iphone just as you were able to turn off the shutter sound on the camera, which was changed due to privacy issues I understand...but this leaving a group message is absolutely ridiculous they are able to do it and for some dumb apple reason or another changed this feature

  • thedreadedone Level 1 (0 points)

    Hey Ocean20,


    I like your analogy of spam email not being able to remove yourself from spam. But if Facebook allows you the ability to remove yourself from group messages then I cannot imagine why an enity such as Apple cannot create a solution. Sometimes the group text starts off with something serious and important then it turns into some other useless topic you to not want to read. When everyone is texting at the same time is it almost impossible to follow. Sometimes you as just want out. My text messages ding and I do not want to change it.  It is so annoying sometimes I know I will not buy a new iPhone if they do not create the ability to get out of group text. YOU CAN REMOVE YOURSELF FROM GROUP MASSAGES ON FACEBOOK.  YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO DO IT WITH THE IPHONE. WITHOUT THE ANALOGY OF LETTERS OR EMAIL.

  • Cantw84glory Level 1 (0 points)



    I noticed you made a point of letting us know that we don't get charged for texts received, only for ones sent.  This is not the case when travelling abroad.  When travelling outside the US, some carriers charge you for messages sent AND received...the rate for receiving is less than sending, probably because they realize you have little control over who sends messages to you.

  • dmikichi Level 1 (0 points)



    Please send me your phone number so I can show you first hand what we are talking about.


    Oh! "I would never do that," you say "because I would never allow my number to get into the hands of those who would (intentionally or not) bombard my phone with texts that I do not wish to read."


    Very well, consider this hypothetical situation. Somehow, who know how and forget about why, a person who has your number (because the whole point of having a phone is to communicate with someone other than yourself) starte a group text. Aha! You remember the very advice that you gave to us poor saps and decide to throw your phone away and get a new phone with a new number. It's okay that you just wasted $200 give or take because now you plan to get a free phone. But then, after going months without any contacts in your new phone and contemplating what the point of having a phone is and paying monthly service charges, you decide to branch out and get some contacts. You even make them sign a contract prohibiting them from putting you into a group text. Low and behold! it happens again. Afraid they will simply laugh you out of court, you decide not to press charges. Instead, this time, you "throw away your phone and delete your email account and remove your letterbox from your house and that way noone will be able to send you anything you dont want." Yet, since you're taking such drastic measures, you figure people might start hand delivering messages to your door. So you move. Not to where there are more people who could do the same, but to a deserted island. You now resort to hunter/gatherer mode, you wear a loin cloth, try to make fire...pretty soon you're talking to a volleyball.

  • SyrTex77 Level 1 (0 points)

    I understand that this may not be most efficient solution, however, it has worked for me: I'm in a few group texts pertaining to work, so I can't turn my group texts / ringer off - however, I'm also in a group text with my family and yes it tends to get out of control sometimes.. I went ahead and edited my contact entries so that the "offending" parties have a silent alert - no vibrate no tones nothing. It worked great. Now I just need to come up with excuses as to why I'm not answering their calls / txts - but think of it this way, it's better to beg for forgiveness than to ask for permission (and I have asked them to remove me from that list, politely, numerous times, but somehow I always manage to make it back on it again). Not sure if it would help your case but maybe worth a shot.

  • Rossco818 Level 1 (0 points)

    I Googled the question about removing myself from a group text which brought me hear.  After reading Ocean20 comments, I am so glad many of you responded to his/her comments.  I understand the point he is trying to make, but comparing text messages to letters you receive in the mail is crazy.  appaerntly, you have never been on one of these out-of-control group text messages.  I just don't understand why we are not given the option.

  • iemtnt Level 1 (0 points)

    My son started going to an all iPad junior high school and all the students are now getting into group imessaging. In some ways it has been helpful but most of the time it is just a huge distraction and annoyance. Having this option seems so simple and it could even notify the group, like Facebook does. So, what is holding this back?

  • lonestar2020 Level 1 (0 points)

    I have wondered the same thing. Why can't the "conversation" be blocked ( and it's possible) like a phone number can now be blocked with the updated operating software   We absolutely should be given an option to opt out as the analogy to an email message is not even close to the same   I find forums like this discouraging when you get answers like that of Ocean20 to someone who asked a very real and legitimate question.  How helpful are these half baked self righteous answers to anyone ?  But all things considered he/she is probably 12 years old. 

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