I swear it worked before on this computer but I use so many different computers I could be wrong.
Found this information, tried it all reversing to "NO" and "FALSE" and still didn't work.
http://hints.macworld.com/article.php?story=20120221065822722
http://hints.macworld.com/article.php?story=20091219105029292
Don't send Command-Tab, etc. in ARD and screen sharing 
Dec 24, '09 07:30:04AM • Contributed by: MacNoggin
In Apple Remote Desktop 3.3, Apple changed the behavior of key commands during screen sharing. In this knowledge-base article, one of the listed "improvements" is this:
When controlling a remote client, function keys and key combinations for actions such as Force Quit, Log Out, and the Application Switcher are now all sent to the remote computer.
While this feature has its benefits in some scenarios, some people may prefer the old functionality. Here's how to make Remote Desktop not send the special function keys to the remote computer. Quit Remote Desktop, then open Terminal and enter this command:
defaults write com.apple.RemoteDesktop DoNotSendSystemKeys -bool YES
If you decide you want to have the special function keys sent to the remote machine, just quit Remote Desktop and repeat the above command, but change YES to NO.
[robg adds: Screen sharing in 10.6 gained this same "improvement," and I know some people are annoyed by it there as well. I tried applying the DoNotSendKeys key to screen sharing, and it worked! So, if you'd rather not have special keys sent to the remote Mac via screen sharing, just use this Terminal command (without an active screen sharing session):
defaults write com.apple.ScreenSharing DoNotSendSystemKeys -bool YES
Revert the behavior by repeating the command, but change YES to NO.]
10.7: Make Lion honor the com.apple.ScreenSharing DoNotSendSystemKeys default 
Feb 23, '12 07:30:00AM • Contributed by: Anonymous
Lion seems to have broken the ability (or at least made it tremendously unreliable) to have Command+Tab only apply to the local machine when controlling another host via screen sharing. This hint offers a possible workaround.
Prior to Lion, in most OS X versions where screen sharing was supported natively (Leopard and later, I think), Command+Tab switching through apps on a machine controlling another host via screen sharing would only switch among running apps on the local machine. [crarko adds: That's actually not been my experience, hence the defaults setting mentioned below.]
This behavior has never been consistent however, and somewhere along the line, a default was introduced:
defaults write com.apple.ScreenSharing DoNotSendSystemKeys -bool TRUE
This allowed some user choice in the matter. This seems to have stopped working in Lion, but I have also noticed that sometimes the system spontaneously reverts to restricting Command+Tab to the local machine anyway, but often after a reboot, it's back to the behavior of Command+Tab going to the apps on the remote machine, with no (keyboard-only) way to get back out.
Quite by accident while this was happening, I happened to be looking at Activity Monitor, and noticed a process I hadn't seen before: RFBEventHelperd, owned by _ard (the screen sharing system user). On a whim, I tried killing it (it didn't hurt anything), and at once, my Command+Tabbing is happily only affecting my local machine again.
Note that you may need to enter the above defaults setting in Terminal for this to work. I haven't tried without it being set.
[crarko adds: I tested this, and it works as described. I also didn't notice any bad side effects from killing RFBEventHelperd, but if anyone does, please post them in the comments.]