caller name on second phone same as first

Sharing an iTunes account is OK, but that doesn't mean you have to share the same Apple ID for every purpose. In fact, it can be enormously confusing with messages, contacts, and calendars.

If you are going to share purchases, I recommend the shared Apple ID be used only for iTunes and App Store purchases and each individual have a separate Apple ID as their primary Apple ID. Now if I had only known that from the beginning...

I agree, there must be many families with multiple iPhones under the same provider. My wife and I are one such family, and we do not have the problem you have. On the other hand, Rogers is not our provider.

Is your daughter's iPhone using the same Apple ID as your husband's Settings > iCloud? That could partly explain the confusion with iMessages or FaceTime, but not why she receives his voice calls.

Also check your daughter's Settings > Messages > Send & Receive to make sure your husband's information is not there in addition to your daughter's.

As for the caller ID, that should be addressed with your provider. It may need to be handled in person or by telephone call if the website doesn't provide for setting the caller ID. We had a similar problem with our old provider, and it took a while for them to fix. (Both phones carried the account holder's name.)

A general sketch (assumes you have set up separate Apple IDs for your husband and your daughter):

On your daughter's phone:

In Settings > iCloud, tap Delete Account and verify [Will remove all your shared data from this phone.]

In Settings > iCloud, add your daughter's Apple ID, set options (mail, contacts, calendars, etc.) as needed

In Settings > iTunes & App Stores > Apple ID, if you are still signed in, good; otherwise sign in your Apple ID

Set up any other data and settings your daughter needs on her phone. Since she only recently got it, it may not be extensively customized.

Repeat the above with your husband's phone. I gather he has had his longer, so it may be more work getting back to where he was. You may want to wait a while after switching your daughter's phone so you know more about living with the transition.

You should now have three seperate identities for contacts, calendars, iCloud email, FaceTime, iMessages, and the like. One of those identities is also the app/music/video purchasing account on all three.

For extra points (and extra pain), create a new Apple ID for yourself and use the purchasing account for only purchasing. [This is a step I have never taken.]

If you find that you liked some aspects of sharing one calendar account, you can go back and set up one or more shared calendars. Contacts are trickier; I haven't mastered sharing those.

I didn't ask if you also have your Apple ID tied to one or more Macs and how you use them. That may affect the choices you make during the switch of the phones.

Please note that I have not performed the transition I outlined above. I set my wife's first iPhone up with a separate Apple ID and iCloud account I had made for her previously. (Actually, it was part of a MobileMe family pack account back then.)