When I plug my device in it doesn't have the icon in the top right for my device and everything is done correctly (WINDOWS VISTA)
Follow these steps here. http://www.apple.com/support/iphone/assistant/itunes/
If you need to uninstall iTunes make sure it's done in the order the resource indicates.
If the 7 steps above (do yourself a favor and don't skip any steps) don't resolve the issue use this resource http://support.apple.com/kb/TS1538
It can be a pain but there is a solution to this problem.
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