when syncing I have changed the contacts on my pc and then used the advance setting to replace on my phone and all the ones I changed come back to both the pc and the phone. any help

I have just installed ms outlook 2010 and am trying to sync my contacts and calendars and it is not working. I have delited the contacts on my pc that I wish to change and then went to the advance tab and said replace the contacts on my i phone and it does not it brings back all the ones i just deleted. I even deleted on both the phone and the pc and magically they all re appeared. Help!!!

Also i cannot get my calendar to import or sync to my phone at all. it does not show up in the sync cycle so it can bring it in, but it is in my outlook