Q: How to update software on iPad 2

Prior to iOS 5, updates were performed through iTunes. So, to upgrade to iOS 6 (the current version), you will need to connect your iPad to a computer with iTunes and perform the update through iTunes.

Apple has step by step instructions on how to update your iPad here: http://support.apple.com/kb/ht4972

Assuming you have iOS 4.3 as your tagline suggests. You'll need to connect your iPad to a Computer running iTuines (Can be a Mac or a Pc doesn't matter) and follow the update prompts.

You'll probably want to back up the iPad before updating though.

iOS: How to update your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch

Scroll down to the section titled: Update your device using iTunes

If you have an iPad 1, the max iOS is 5.1.1. For newer iPads, the current iOS is 6.1.3. The Settings>General>Software Update only appears if you have iOS 5.0 or higher currently installed.

iOS 5: Updating your device to iOS 5 or Later

http://support.apple.com/kb/HT4972

How to install iOS 6

http://www.macworld.com/article/2010061/hands-on-with-ios-6-installation.html

iOS: How to update your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch

http://support.apple.com/kb/HT4623

If you are currently running an iOS lower than 5.0, connect the iPad to the computer, open iTunes. Then select the iPad under the Devices heading on the left, click on the Summary tab and then click on Check for Update.

Tip - If connected to your computer, you may need to disable your firewall and anitvirus software temporarily.  Then download and install the iOS update. Be sure and backup your iPad before the iOS update. After you update an iPad (except iPad 1) to iOS 6.x, the next update can be installed via wifi (i.e., not connected to your computer).

Tip 2 - If you're updating via wifi, place your iPad close to your router to preclude getting a corrupted download.

 Cheers, Tom