Found a brute force way of this which walks a tight rope.
First,close all of your Finder windows. Then delete all the hidden files named ".DS_Store" on every hard disk (volume) you have. Then open a finder window on each disk, hide the toolbar with Command-Shift-T, then close the Finder window. After this, your default view for that disk becomes that last view you saw. You have to do this for each disk which is kind of a pain but better than the "open folder, press command-shift-T" for every bloody folder.
To do this via Terminal...
1) Close all Finder windows (hold option key, close one of them)
2) use SpotLight to find "Terminal" and launch Terminal
3) type
cd
and a space in the terminal window after the ">" prompt appears
4) drag and drop a hard disk into the Terminal window after the "cd ". This puts the "path" name in there...
5) press return. This sets the default folder location for Terminal (default directory) to the hard disk
6) run this command (copy and paste it into terminal, press return after pasting)
sudo find . -name '*.DS_Store' -type f -delete
7) when prompted, enter your administrator account password (yes, you need to be admin, sorry)
This will take a long time if you have a big disk, lots of folders, etc. The square 1970's terminal cursor will sit there and blink under the "P" in the word "Password" for quite a while. (shades of the original "Tron" movie). There may be a couple of errors spit out by this command line tool, don't worry it continues on riding it's little light cycle through your hard disk wacking only the ".DS_Store" files as it goes. The program named "find" will be eating quite a bit of processor if you are into checking on that sort of thing with Activity Monitor or another Terminal window with "top".
At the end you will have your display looking something like this (without all the red ink):

You need to repeat for each disk you have. Be aware that if you set the view to the "show toolbar" and then open a new folder below, that button junk-loaded window view default starts to take root again and spreads. (technically it's not a virus but it sure acts like one).