I need a special tool just to access my own photos?
I suggested "Find any File" because it is easier to use than the Finder's search - the results there will depend, on what you have included in your Spotlight index.
To search using the Finder, open a Finder window; press the key combination ⌘F, and then set the search window to search "This Mac" and "Kind is 'Photo Library'"
Only, if the library should have become corrupted, this may not work. And the search will not look inside the packages.
The whole iPhoto library directory is only 556 MB so I guess the videos are lost for good.
How is the "Importing > Copy items to the iPhoto Library" flag set? See my last post.
If you imported with "store files" in there original location, the photos and videos will have remained on the card, until the crad has been erased.
Is there a way to start iPhoto from scratch so at least I can start over and have it not destory all my data next time?
You can create a new iphoto library, by using the command "File > Switch to Library > Create New".
Is there way to import my photos and videos without using iPhoto?
You can use the utility "Image Capture", that comes with every Mac to import your photos to folders on your Mac.
This program is horrendous!
I never had problems with it and like it, but I understand ....