Hi JlG89,
I understand the frustration that you have.
From my point of view I suggested a check of
and
Just to check they are exactly the same. You assure us that they are but do not comfirm they are in writing.
Note for my GoogleTalk setting the SSL is active. The port is 5223 in this case
I suggested that you check here
To make sure your Firewall settigns are the same. (Mine does not list the three Jabber ports 5220, 5222, 5223) 5223 is used by GoogleTalk and some older Jabber servers.
On the basis you have assured us that the above items are not a feature I have suggested that the ports in the modem and by implictaion the System Preferences > Network settings may differ.
This is likely to be something like the Location setting, which in turn holds info about being logged in from another point, either Wirelessly V Airport/Wirelessly and a different IP locally or it is a mobile computer and you have several Locations set as presets now.
That would then lead us to...
If the Jabber login is not working and these settings are all the same then the com.apple.ichat.Jabber.plist maybe corrupt and need deleting and iChat restarting to create a new one.
You are right, I don't have a direct answer. However I do find from experience that asking people to recheck some items works on a two heads are better than one method and can sometimes trigger something to be thought of that is not directly mentioned or considered.
I find your answers are like a mechanic saying over the phone, " Has it got Fuel ?"
You reply " Yes, of course"
Then when the guy gets there, he finds someone has put diesel in the tank.
Unless you are using Proxies, the above settings are the only ones that I can see that would effect this.
If you have Devleoper Tools you can inspect the .plists in each account (com.apple.ichat.Jabber.plist) and compare the visible items.
The iChat .plist do hold some invisible settings that often do not appear until you change things. As some things can not be changed they stay hidden. Hence the suggestion to delete and restart.
One final thing that occures to me now is to check the Keychain and password for the Jabber account.
FAQ written prior to Jabber but usable
http://discussions.apple.com/thread.jspa?threadID=121885
8:29 PM Wednesday; July 5, 2006